Anxiety is an emotion which cannot be controlled. Anxiety consumes you in every possible way. It can be the most crippling feeling, battling with your thoughts. It can be like you are fighting a battle in your head every single day. I previously wrote a post about my mental health, but I now feel it’s the right time to post a bit of an update.
A lot has changed in my life since that post, but I’ve also now come to terms with my anxiety a lot more in the past 6 months, thanks to counselling. Plus, I’m surrounded by some of the most amazing, supportive people.
High levels of anxiety can cause panic attacks (or anxiety attacks). Anxiety attacks can happen to you anywhere, here is a list of places I have had them take place:
- In bed at night
- In a supermarket
- In a pub
- In a club
- At the bar
- On a train
- On a bus
- Whilst walking
- My boyfriends house
- At school
- At university
- At work
For years, I tried to manage and control my anxiety all by myself. I now realise this was quite silly of me, I should have gone to a doctor sooner and asked for help. Personally, my anxiety can feel like it’s spiralling out of control. I do sometimes feel like it controls me, and I really wish it didn’t.
I can go weeks without feeling much (or even any) anxiety, but there are other days and weeks where I can feel how intense it is. Sometimes we may not even know what it is which is making us anxious. Some people are generally just better at handling their anxiety than others.
For someone with anxiety, tasks which seem like they would be normal, every day tasks, can be a total nightmare. After finally seeking help with my anxiety earlier this year, I have been seeing a therapist. There is a lot of stigma in regards to therapy and counselling, but honestly this is one of the best decisions I have ever made. My therapist has talked me through my anxiety and helped me to understand how certain things that have happened to me in the past will cause me to have an panic attack.
I now understand my own mind a hell of a lot better. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still having panic attacks but I’m slowly learning how to manage them in a healthier way. He has taught me that I am a very strong person and brave. Although it may still sometimes feel like it, I am loved and I am not battling anxiety alone. Therapy may not work for everyone, but it has really helped me grow as a person. When close friends and family tell me they can see a very positive change in me now, and how proud they are of me… this truly motivates me to keep battling.
How can I help someone who has anxiety/is having a panic attack?
Be patient and calm.
Ask the individual what they need, try not to make any assumptions.
Do not tell them to “calm down”. This is one of the worst things someone can say to me.
Let them go about things at their own pace. If they want to sit on the floor, let them sit on the floor (as long as it is a safe place e.g. not in the middle of a road). Please try not to show annoyance if they are unable to do something quickly.
Be supportive and reassuring. I always feel like I’ve let myself down after a panic attack. If you can, try to let them know you are there for them and make them feel better.
Seeking help for your anxiety (or anything mental health related) can seem incredibly daunting. Please remember, you are not alone. There is always someone out there who is willing to help or listen. Panic attacks can be so scary, but try to remember many people suffer from anxiety and will understand how you feel. Do what you can at your own pace, your health and well-being is the most important thing. You are important and you are so strong ♥
Keep fighting! x
Please share this post with anyone you think may be struggling, or with those who struggle to understand anxiety. It may hopefully help them! Please do share your stories and thoughts in the comments section below.